Note: Article automatically translated with software from Italian
The cases and the respective mandates inherent to the issues of betrayal, infidelity and sentimental problems, although not the main field I deal with, still remains a thriving sector. In this article I will deal with the casuistry when she sees the betrayal committed by her husband or boyfriend.
The occasion makes the man a thief, betrayals and marital infidelities between meetings, social networks and private investigators
In recent years it seems as if the phenomenon of marital betrayal and infidelity is becoming an almost cultural aspect. To facilitate the practice of “putting on horns”, social networks and various online communities also contribute to their extent. However, the subject of marital infidelity is not entirely a modern phenomenon. Already in the classical poems there were tales of cases of marital infidelity to the detriment of monarchs, gods and semi gods.
Investigative investigations in the field of marital infidelity
Marital infidelity and the related investigative investigation is one of those services, which most identifies in the common imagination, the private investigator. Although not the main area of my business, issues of marital infidelity occupy me discreetly during the year. It should be noted that in Switzerland, treason no longer has any influence during divorce. But then a question arises spontaneously, for what purpose every year a large number of people hire a private investigator to monitor their loved one? The answer is very simple: a mix of feelings, love, hate and possession. In fact, often when we realize we are being betrayed, we miss the ground under our feet and we begin to enter a vortex of insecurity, despair and hatred.
This is where the private investigator comes into play in some cases. In fact, from experience I must say that when I am contacted by the client, and less frequently by male clients, the betrayal is almost confirmed. So the investigative investigations are primarily aimed at providing more details. Sometimes this need is generated by a false hope, in the fact that there has been a misunderstanding.
My personal ethics in inquiries into marital betrayal
Personally, for investigative matters relating to warrant for marital infidelity, once the due evidence has been collected and the adultery has been proven, I tend to want to expose the situation to the principal. Personally, in such situations, I recommend ending the mandate, given that the goal is achieved. It often happens that the betrayed enters a vicious vortex, that he is driven by feelings to the bitter end to continue the mandate, despite the overwhelming evidence. In this case, for my professional ethics, I try to insist on interrupting the investigations, which in any case would only cause more pain, as well as unjustly inflict on the principal’s wallet.
False customer expectations
Customers often expect that in a single evening they will be able to catch the cheating spouse red-handed. Unfortunately, the reality is very different and only rarely an investigative warrant, for treason is resolved in a few hours of investigative investigation. Often a warrant for marital infidelity can take many hours. And in any case it will not always give the desired results. This is a concept that I want to point out to my clients. The aim is to avoid disappointments due to false expectations, which could unfairly turn into a negative thought towards the work of the private detective.
The difficulty in identifying occasional traitors
From experience, as a private investigator, I can state that most betrayals take place over a few hours, over a month. It is rare for the partner to cheat every single day. This is to make it clear that it is not excluded that we can lurk, even for 4 days without detecting anything abnormal, and then on the fifth day, just when the mandate is suspended, the act of betrayal is consummated.
Therefore, those who want to hire a private investigator to stalk their partner in addition to having to provide the greatest number of clues to the private detective, sometimes even very personal, must be well informed about what it entails.