Note: Article automatically translated with software from Italian
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Do you suspect an infidelity on the part of your husband?
Do you think you are a victim of a betrayal, that is to say you have the so called horns? Contact a professional private investigator.
One of the most unpleasant events for a woman during her married life is to be confronted with the famous horns. A traumatic experience that unfortunately affects the vast majority of people, at least once in a lifetime. Raise your hand who has never been cuckolded? Well I see one hand at the bottom and another one over here. Nobody else? Then we can proceed.
The private investigator is associated with horns investigations
In the collective imagination the figure of the private investigator is often associated with investigations related to horns. During the course to obtain the Cantonal authorization as a private investigator, this theory had been denied. This assertion was corroborated by the fact that in Switzerland, in the divorce phase, guilt is no longer considered to be the fault. It was claimed that no one would invest money to expose their unfaithful partner without being able to obtain a financial statement. Years later I can say that this is not exactly the case and I declare publicly that in the exercise of the profession the horns still occupy a substantial position.
It is true that not everyone is willing to spend money, sometimes even large sums of money, to have the mathematical certainty of having been cuckolded. But it is also true that it is believed that on that occasion the teachers had overlooked a reason well above that generated by a hypothetical economic advantage in the divorce. That is, the emotional desire to know whether or not you have these blessed horns.
My first investigative mandate
My first investigative mandate was in the sentimental sphere and despite the fact that the betrayal was obvious, the client asked me to find out if the betrayal already confessed was occasional or habitual.
Often the client contacts you in desperation. Not knowing what to do anymore, but unable to make the right decision to end a relationship, she goes in search of evidence that facilitate this choice. In this type of mandate in essence only a white on black proof is required that the butterfly husband is still cheating and with what frequency.
The second case consists of those who, despite having no evidence of betrayal, sign an investigative warrant. So we talk about hypothetical horns, and then the private investigator is asked to verify the partner.
During my personal experience it is more the cases of women who turn to the private investigator, rather than male clients. I can’t tell if more horns are put by males, or that by females. I can also think that the man is more proud and therefore prefers to play the “I don’t give a damn” card rather than expose his discomfort.
Generally in female clients there is an insecurity that pushes them to self-pity. The mind begins to work in search of the reason for which you are betrayed. After the discouragement, anger generally takes over. This feeling considerably complicates the investigation. Not infrequently it happens that the betrayed woman, is driven to suspect anyone of the female horned sex. The first suspicion can fall on the policewoman who puts the fines in the street adjacent to her partner’s office. Then she passes by the bartender at the bar near her home. Then the suspicion falls on the nun of the nursery that the little son attends. Mysteriously, she is left out, perhaps leaving out her work colleague. Motivation: because she is also married.
Here is the mistake, in most of the mandates where the husband was cheating, the antagonist lover consisted of the work colleague. Also married and perhaps with children. Unfortunately, the phenomenon of cheating in the workplace is one of the most frequent cases found by a private investigator.
The ethics of the good investigator
When I work in horns mandates, I set stakes so as not to take advantage of my client or, of course, my client. It happens that the person who has been betrayed, despite the overwhelming evidence, wants to be anxious to find more information. Probably with the false hope of obtaining evidence that overturns the objective facts found up to that moment. Here is that an investigator in such a case could take advantage of this state of mind of the client to “drawer”. In these situations for my personal ethics I prefer to be clear and I advise the client to interrupt the mandate in order not to spend stratospheric amounts, abusing a momentary psychological discomfort.
Even investigators have legal limits
It often happens, especially in matters of horns and sentimental matters, that I am required to use hidden location or recording equipment. Needless to say, such practices are not only unethical but also illegal. Therefore, in such situations, in addition to advising the client to abandon such a path, if the client’s desire to use illegal practices for their own purposes does not demorde, I do not hesitate to decline the mandate. When I chose to go down the path of the private investigator, I also chose to perform this profession in an ethical manner and in accordance with current legislation.